My GSP Glory is now 4 mos old, had her from 9 weeks. I have loved on her every single day since I brought her home, i.e. kiss her head/face, give her treats, praise her, spend daily time training her (can shake, switch paws, play dead, stay), keep her exercised to the point of exhaustion, never abused her, etc and she is still the most unaffectionate dog I have ever owned. This is my 1st GSP, but the only dog I've ever owned that didn't want to constantly be by my side, nudge me to pet on her head, cuddle, etc. I have even tried sitting in her doggy bed with her and she will get up and move to the other side of the room. It's very disheartening, as I got her as a "therapy dog" for my depression/anxiety. She definitely gets me out of bed in the morning (5am!) and I do get more exercise since getting her. But when I cry I'm used to my dog being right there to comfort me (nudge their head against me, lick my tears, look at me with soulful eyes, etc). She just keeps chewing her rawhide as if I'm not even there. She sleeps in her crate right next to the bedroom, but I plan to eventually let her sleep by my bedside when she's potty trained. So it's not like I don't make her feel like a part of the "pack".

I think there are some females that take a long time to bond, some are really out for themselves...Just give her time and keep showing her affection, she'll come around.

Wow, that sounds just like how I treated girls in junior high. 

I agree though. It's time to act a little more aloof with this pup, I think. She's still a very young pup, so don't ignore her, but you shouldn't be the one initiating all the contact. Let her come to you, and have a pocket full of treats when she does, so she starts to equate you with some excellent feedback. Keep at it, and I'm betting that she'll get closer to the kind of dog you were looking for. I can give you a lot of criticisms about this breed, but I've never met one that wasn't affectionate. You just need to bring it out of her by being a little more detached. 

And don't follow the advice to sleep in to your regular time unless she's in a crate, or you'll end up with a floor full of you know what. 

I think you are putting alot on the withers of this very young pup. Even an adult dog would have trouble reading your emotions after just two months together. This is a marathon not a sprint. If she is lying contentedly chewing, she is happy and she trusts you. You must be doing something right.  I wouldn't change the way you interact with her. Give it some more time you've got a lot to learn about one another.

I think you're right about her not seeing me as the pack leader. My husband has a very deep voice. I try not to baby talk to her, but still I do have a higher pitched voice, of course. He is also the one that generally corrects her when she's naughty. We do wait for her to sit and stay before we set her food dish down. She likes when I play my guitar, so that's when I don't pay her much attention. I have also armed myself with treats from now as an incentive to come over and give me some attention. I can already tell she is going to be a very well behaved and smart dog. 

I appreciate all the suggestions. It all makes sense to me now. I shoulda read my Ceasar Millan book about being the pack leader! 

Sounds awful but a lot of Ceaser Millan's advice can be followed in the wrong way so be careful

Ditto the others in that I think you are trying to hard. The more I "make myself available" to Hogan - the more aloof he becomes. As soon as I find something else to give my attention to (TV, book, laptop, partner) he comes running

Keep going with it. Do lots of training and that will help you bond.

Keep your chin up

I would agree that it sounds like you're trying a little too hard. You need to be respectful of his space. Adenine has never really enjoyed being petted so I generally don't bother him with it. Instead I'll usually just give him a little pat on his back or side when he walks by.   Adenine has also never been liked to cuddle during the day.  However, he is always in the same room as me.  However, he does always sleep under the covers with me, so you might try letting him sleep in your bed if you really want that physical contact.  Of course you shouldn't force him to sleep with you.  Just invite him up and if he declines just go on like nothing happened.  In your dog's eyes, you are not respecting his space. As you long as you legitimately respect and love him, he will respect and love you back. He may just show it a different (or subtler) way. If I were you, I would drop all your expectations of what you think he should be like. If you try to turn him into the "dog of your dreams" you will just be disappointed. Instead, learn to appreciate him for what he is and you will be very happy.  Eventually you will realize that when he is calmly lying in the same room as you with a chew, it means that he feels calm around you and enjoys your company.  

Also, one of my biggest mistakes/regrets early on (this is my first dog) was thinking of everything in terms of dominance. I always heard that if your dog walks in front of you or goes through a door first or whatever, that he is disrespecting you and was trying to be your leader. As soon as I dropped that notion and just started loving him for who he was, things got great. Try not to think of dominance in every situation. As long as you are calmly and assertively enforcing your rules he will respect you. Don't worry about small, symbolic things like going through doors first.

Like Cesar always says, you don't get the dog you want, you get the dog you need.  If he can help you to learn how to be happy when things don't meet your expectations, that may be more therapeutic than getting a dog that is very lovey all the time.  Just my two cents and good luck!

I agree with the others, don't worry.  There is a difference between undiscriminating puppy love and a true bond, and you may be in between!  When I adopted Chelsea she was 9 months and had never known affection.  She would accept it but didn't really reciprocate for quite a while.  She is still much more independent than my boy but when she comes over and leans against me or snuggles, I know she means it!